Category Archives: Note Worthy Book or Booklets

PRAISE WORKS BY Merlin Carothers

My Wife Left Me

Dear Sir,

Since I read your books, I have been trying to thank God that my wife left me, but I can’t do it.  Every time I think about her, I can do nothing but cry.  I’m getting less and less able to do my work, and I don’t even care.  I seldom eat a full meal, and I’m never hungry.  How can I be thankful that I feel so terrible?  I’m not able to help anyone else, and I would like to use my life for something worthwhile.

When my wife first left me, friends told me I would get over it with time.  But time is making me worse.  I love my wife, and the longer she is gone, the more I miss her.  Shouldn’t people who love someone be sad when they leave?  There are many times that I do wrong, but I don’t  feel wrong about missing my wife.  Do you think I am wrong?  You help many people – can you help me?

Authors Answer

Yes, you are wrong my friend.  You are permitting Satan to destroy you.  You believe your sorrow is “right,” so you carefully hold on to it.  When you realize that it is wrong, you will let go of it and God will give you a new life.

It is wrong to doubt God regardless of the circumstances.  It may be natural not to want pain of any kind, just as it is natural not to want separation from someone we love.  But even Jesus ” learned obedience by the things which he suffered” (Heb. 5:8).  If you want your situation to be used by God to bless you and others, begin to thank Him that your wife is gone.  At first it may seem impossible, but do your best and God will honor that.  He only requires you to do what you are able to do.

It isn’t your wife’s departure that is killing you, it is your own reaction to it.  God permits you to react however you choose, but He will give you peace if you will thank Him that everything is exactly as it is and trust Him to work good out of it exactly as He promised.  What good?  Bring your wife back?  Only He knows the good that needs to be done, and this must be left to Him.

I will be in prayer with you that the Holy Spirit will help you to believe that God is with you and has a perfect plan for you and your wife.

Dear Sir

When I received  your letter, my reaction was “you’r nuts!”  I kept on feeling sorry for  myself.  But your prayer must have gotten through!  I went back and read Power in Praise again and decided to give praise a good try.  At first I felt like a real hypocrite, but once I got started, I knew I had to either make it that time or I would never try it again.  I kept saying “Thank you, God.” After a while,  I  could tell that I was feeling a little bit better.  When I was convinced that I was a little better, I got excited.  God was actually doing something for me.

You were right.  My self-pity gradually left!  I saw that I needed God much more than I needed my wife.  I still love her and want her, but I’m learning what it means to need God too.  He has a plan for my life, so I am going to enjoy finding out what it is.  Several times lately, I’ve seen an opportunity to do something for someone else, and I actually enjoyed doing it.  When I was crying like a baby, I thought only of myself.  It is like I was in a fog and am now starting to see the sunshine.  Please keep praying for me.  God must have more things He wants to do in me.

 Authors Comments

It will take a lifetime for God to complete His plan for our lives.  When that plan is completed, we are then ready for heaven.  In heaven we will be relieved of all our problems, but here on earth we need to experience whatever suffering will fit us for the eternal plan He has for us.  You are being prepared to serve Him in your own special  way for all eternity.  God could have started your eternity in heaven with the angels, but you were to come here first and learn what-ever you needed to know.  If you choose to grumble and fight against His will for you, you will be like the man who beats his head against a stone wall.  That really isn’t the purpose for a wall.  Doubting God isn’t the purpose for life either!


One night about 8: ish in the pm, when I lived alone, near Mt Herman, in California, I all of a sudden had a screaming horrible pain in my mouth that would not stop.  Even though it seemed impossible because of the howling pain I was barely able to call a friend to come over and help me.  While I was screaming with pain that came in waves and would never stop, my friend called every where and there was no help to be found because of the late hour.

I prayed and prayed for help and relief because the pain was unbearable with no possible let up and suddenly a thought came into my mind and I could think of nothing else, except the pain, of course.  I was remembering a story about some ladies who while in a concentration – camp, enduring horrible treatment and conditions during the war.  One of the ladies had started a bible study group while in the concentration – camp and she became the facilitator of the group, she had been teaching the ladies in the group to “praise God in all things“.  The ladies where insulted and complained that it was impossible to praise God for what they were going through.  They said, “how is it humanly possible to thank God for what is happening to us with the lice, flea, rat,  and mice infestation we have to endure, let alone the treatment and conditions we have to put up with here, it does’nt make since to thank God for all these terrible things.  The ladies were told to have faith and believe in the word of God, because they were told that all through the scriptures it is stated to Praise God in all things” .  Even thorgh it seemed impossible to these women in that deplorable situation they still continued to practise the principal of : “Praising God in ALL things.

Later these ladies found that the only reason why the hostile guards left them alone was because they WERE infested with lice, flea, mice, and rats.  So apparently, God was blessing them.

So with the horrendous waves of pain from my mouth, I started praying and thanking God for the pain I was experiencing.  When I would say: “Thank you for the pain”, it did not make a lot of sense to me, so more or less I said something like: “Heavenly Father, thou has all knowledge and knows all things and is every where present in all conditions, and  I currently am experiencing this pain and I know not why, but I know there is a purpose for everything under heaven and although I do not understand why, I thank you for this pain.  In the name of Jesus Christ  Amen.  I kept praying and thanking God from 8:ish pm till 8:30 am the next day when my friend drove me to the dentist.

My friend was nice enough to up sit up with me all through that whole night of pain.  MY friend said he could hardly believe what took place during that night of pain.   My friend said to me later that there was a total transformation which went on during the hours that I was in pain.  Where in the beginning, I was told that my face was almost distorted with pain and yet as the hours past by my face became so calm, serene and peaceful, that if they had not seen the transformation with their own eyes they would not have believed it to be possible.

And what I personally experienced at first when I started to pray and thank God, was it felt like such a stupid thing to be doing, but I was in so much pain I was willing to try anything, so I earnestly continued hour after hour through that night with my friend by my side.  I would not have believed what  happened if it hadn’t happened to me.  In the beginning it was so hard but as the hours past one by one with the pain continuing, after many hours, ever so slowly the pain continued and as it did the pain ever so slowly became sweet so I could bear it, and by the time we got to the dentist office I was afraid to stop praying and thanking God.  The pain had turned SWEET.

The dentist said he was surprised that I had made it through the night because he said that the infection had affected the whole branch of the nerves and until he was able to examine the x rays he could not be sure which tooth was the infected one, and that was why I could not tell him which one of the teeth hurt, because my whole mouth hurt.

I will probably remember that experience for the rest of my life, the night I prayed and thanked God for the pain and my reward was that through the night the pain turned sweet and easier to bear.  Thank thee Heavenly Father for that lovely, but hard experience, in the Name of Jesus Christ Amen.















Power Freedom and Grace by Deepak Chopra

(Chapter 6)   “What is the Key to Lasting happiness? (pages 81.- 94.)

Source  (sors):

One that causes, creates, or initiates; a maker.

     Behind the curtain of your intellect and emotion  is your self-image or ego.  The ego is not your real self; it is the image of yourself that you have slowly built over time.  It is the mask behind which you hide, but is not the real you.  And because it is not the real you, but a fraud, it lives in fear.  It wants approval.  It needs to control.  And it follows you wherever you go.

     There is a beautiful poem by the Indian poet Ravindranath Tagore, who is speaking to God: “I came out alone on my way to my tryst.  But who is this that follows me it in the silent dark?  I move aside to avoid his presence, but I escape him not.  He makes the dust rise from the earth with his swagger; he adds his loud voice to every word that I utter.  He is own little self, my Lord; he knows no shame.  But I am ashamed to come to thy door in his company.”

     The ego is the prison you have built around yourself, and now it holds you captive within its walls.  How do you know this happened?  You have to know that any time you feel discomfort in your body, your ego, which is e-g-o or edging-god-out, is over-shadowing your inner self.  Fear, doubt, worry, and concern are some of the energies associated with your ego.

     And what do you do?  The best way to dissipate these energies is to feel your body.  Just feel the localized sensations in your body, and keep feeling them until they begin to dissipate.  And how do you break free from the captivity?  You break free by choosing to identify with your inner self, the real you.  You break free from the prison of conditioning when you feel neither beneath anyone nor superior to anyone, when you shed the need to control other people, when you create space for others to be who they are and for your real self to be what it is.

     You break free when you no longer defend your point of view, when you no longer use stereotypes or harbor extreme likes or dislikes toward people you hardly know.  You break free when you refuse to follow the impulses of anger and fear, when you act from humility rather than belligerence, when you tread gently rather than with swagger, when your speech is nurturing rather than scathing, when you choose to express only your love.

     And how do you know when you are free?  You know you are free when you feel happy and at ease instead of fearful and anxious.  You know you are free when you are independent of the good and bad opinions of others, when you have relinquished the need to seek approval, when you believe that you are good enough as you are.  You know you are free when you surrender to the moment, to  what is, and trust that the universe is on your side.  You know you are free when you let go of resentments and grievances and choose to forgive.

     A Prayer in the spirit guidebook A Course in Miracles says that every decision we make is a choice between a grievance and a miracle.  By letting go of grievances, we choose miracles,  because grievances are the melodrama of the ego that overshadows the spirit.  When you relinquish all grievances, judgements and resentments, you truly break free and find your soul

     The soul is the source of creativity, understanding, peace harmony, laughter, and possibilities.   It is a place of stillness, which is beyond labels.  But as soon as we use a label, we create an image that overshadows what is real.  Somebody once asked Rumi, “who are you?”  And he replied, “I do not know who I am. I am in astounding lucid confusion!  If you label me and define me, you will starve yourself of yourself.  If you box me down with labels and definitions, that box will be your coffin.  I am your own voice echoing off the wall of God!”

     Rumi is saying that we create our self-image by all the labels that people give us. Without those labels we are the free spirit and the free flow of the universe.  As soon as the labels come, good or bad, then the self-image, or ego, begins to overshadow the inner self.

     The world of the ego is time-bound, temporary, fragmented, fearful, personal, self-centered, self-absorbed, and attached to the known.  It clings to pleasure and recoils from pain.  The world of spirit is timeless and eternal, free of past and future, whole, joyful, open and accessible to all.  The world of spirit is the world of community, insight, and love.  This world is real, undivided unshak-able, dynamic, creative, self-sufficient powerful, and free of limitation, expectation, and attachment.

     The world of spirit is the source of all power.  There never was and never will be any other source of power.  What the world calls power is really fear that leads to manipulation and control of others which in turn leads to violence and suffering.  Real power is the power to create, the power to transform, the power to love, the power to heal, and the power to be free.  Real power comes from our connection to our deepest self, to what is real.  That is why powerful people are self-referred, not object-referred.  These two terms need a further need a further explanation.

     As we have seen, abject-referred means that we identify with our self-image or the objects of our experience to understand ourselves.  These objects can be situations, circumstances, people, or things but whenever we refer to objects to define our identify, we are operating out of object-referral mode.  Object-referred individuals evaluate, understand, and try to know themselves through the eyes of others.  The characteristic ingredients of object-referral are conditioned thinking and conditioned response, which means living under the hypnosis of social conditioning.

     The first sign of object-referral is fatigue.  Why?  Because we have relinquished our power to the object of reference.  Ultimately, this causes discomfort in our body or, even disease.  Object-referral is the basic cause of unhappiness, and in the Vedic worldview, happiness is the most important factor in health.

     There is an interesting fable from India that illustrates what object-referral is all about.  There was once a man who had two things that he valued in his life.  One was his son, and the other was a little pony.  His whole sense of reality came from referring to these two objects.  Then one day the pony disappeared.  The man was devastated because he had lost half of what he truly valued.  He was in the depths of despair thinking about his lost pony, when the pony returned with a beautiful white stallion.  Suddenly from the depths of despair he was in the heights of ecstasy.

     The next day, his was riding the stallion and fell down and broke his leg.  So from the heights of ecstasy, the man was now in the depths of despair.  He was wallowing in his misery when the government’s army came looking for all the young men to go to war.  They took every young man in the village except the man’s son, because he had a broken leg.  So from the depths of despair, this man was now in the heights of ecstasy.  You can guess, of course, that this story of object-referral has no ending.

     By their very nature objects change, and as long as we identify with objects, we will never know our real essence.  When we evaluate and understand ourselves through objects, or through the eyes of other, our life is like a roller-coaster ride because the only constant about people, things, situations, and circumstances is that they change.  If our identity is tied to these, then life is always going to be unstable.

     The opposite of object-referral is self-referral.  When we are self-referred, we identify with our inner self, the unchanging essence of our soul.  We feel wonderful regardless of the situation, circumstance, or environment we are in.  And why do we feel wonderful all the time?  Because we don’t identify with the situation; we are the detached, silent witness of the situation.  We are secure in who we are, and we have no urge to prove this to anyone.  If we had the urge to prove this to someone, then we would again be evaluating ourselves through the eyes of others.  Self-referral is an internal state of joy, and this is different from happiness for a reason.

     Of course there’s always a reason to be happy.  Somebody says, “I love you,” and that makes you feel happy.  You win the lottery and make a million dollars; that makes you feel happy.  This kind of happiness is an expression of object-referral: Your happy because of this; your happy because of that.  But inner joy is independent of the situation, circumstances, people, or things.  When you experience inner joy, you are happy for no reason.  Just the mere fact of being alive to gaze at the stars, to experience the beauty of this world, to be experientially alive in the miracle of life itself is your happiness.

     Everything in life is transient and changing because that is the nature of this world, but when you are self-referred, you enjoy the change instead of resisting it.  People have asked me, “What about situations that are difficult to accept?  If something bad is happening in my life, how can I be happy instead of negative and depressed?” Well, by going back to your source, by recognizing that whatever is happening, it comes and goes.  You don’t need to look positively or negatively at a difficult situation.  To always look positively at a difficult situation is artificial, isn’t it?  If I were to positive all the time, first of all I’d be terribly boring.  Second, I’d be terribly unnatural.  Third, nobody would want to be with me.  To always look negatively at a difficult situation is also unnatural.  I’d just become exasperatingly negative and a total bore.  To be natural is the best state to be.

     I once had a patient with a serious disease, and I had never seen her in a mood that was not so-called positive.  She was exasperatingly positive, and finally I asked how she could do that.   She broke down and said she was petrified of having a negative thought.  But isn’t being petrified of having a negative thought a negative thought in itself?  Of course it is, so we don’t need to manipulate our thinking.  To manipulate our thinking is an artificial thing, and one which the Vedic tradition calls mood making.  It’s better  to be spontaneous, and in the spontaneity is joyfulness.  It’s better to be natural, and to let the universe play itself out through us.

     What is a negative mind?  It’s an interpretation.  What is a positive mind?  It’s also an interpretation.  And the difference between a positive mind and a negative mind is sometimes quite superficial.  If you ask me if preferable to have a positive mind, I’d say, “Of course.  A positive mind is preferable to a negative mind,” but both a positive mind and a negative mind can be a turbulent mind, and sometimes one can switch to the other very quickly.  Courage can become fear in the twinkling of an eye.  Love can transform into jealousy in the twinkling of an eye.  There are turbulent minds.  More important than a positive mind is a silent mind.

     We have to learn to go beyond both a positive mind and a negative mind to become a silent, nonjudgmental, nonanalytical, noninterpretive mind.  In other words the silent witness.  In the process of silent witnessing, we experience inner silence.  In the purity of silence, we feel connected to our source and to everything else.  The tendencies that emerge from this connection are evolutionary and spontaneous.  In silence, we just flow with the tide and spontaneously become nonjudgmental, nonanalytical, and noninterpretive about situations, circumstances, other people, and ourselves.  In silence, inner energies spontaneously wake up and bring about the appropriate transformation for every situation.

     There’s a saying that goes, “The river of life runs between the banks of pleasure and pain, and one bumps into both.”  That’s not the problem.  The problem occurs when we cling to the banks, either the positive one or the negative one.  When we quietly reconcile ourselves to all the contradictions that life offers, when we can comfortable flow between the banks of pleasure and pain, experiencing them both while getting stuck in neither, then we have achieved freedom.

     Joy and sorrow, happiness and suffering, are the play of opposites; they are transient because they are time-bound.  Spirit, the essential you, is independent of the play of opposites; it dwells in the silent bliss of the eternal.  And when you know yourself as this field of pure consciousness, then you are living from the source, which is bliss.

     That’s why the key to lasting happiness is to stop looking for it, and to know that you already have it.  If you look for happiness, you will never find it.  If you think it’s around the corner, then you will keep turning the corners.  The real key to happiness is to live and play in the field of intelligence that is beyond positive and negative.  That field is your source, and it is magical, holy, joyful, and free.

     Happiness and sadness are different faces of infinite consciousness.  Both are transient, and you are neither because you are not a state of consciousness.  You are consciousness itself expressing all of these states.  Why would you want to identify with a wave on the ocean or a mere drop of water when you are the ocean?  you are not the ever-changing behavior of the ocean.  And this water-i-ness of the ocean?  And this water-i-ness doesn’t change.

     The real nature of a person is Being, which is not thought.  To experience lasting happiness, you have to go to a place beyond thought and experience inner peace.  It’s not that you have to have a positive attitude.  It’s not that you have to shed your sadness and bring in happiness.  You have to go beyond both; otherwise, it’s just another version of positive thinking.  You have to go beyond the world of duality to the field of pure potentiality and live from your source.

     Rumi in one of his eloquent poems says, “Out beyond ideas of right-doing, there is a field.  I’ll meet you there.”  This field is not in the realm of thought.  It’s beyond all ideas, and all concepts, ideas, and interpretations.  In this field that fear and Rumi is talking about, there is power to manifest your desires, there is freedom from and limitations, and there is that good-luck factor known as grace, which is the fulfillment of desire through synchronicity and the support of the laws of nature.

                                           My notes: 

I thought this particular Chapter was very thought provoking and I want to practise the the principles Deepak Chopra talkes about. It especially enthralled me when he stated:                                   


I would really like to get to that point where I can enjoy seeing that happen in my life and on regular basis.